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An Autism Anthropologist in Need of Help: Special Education and Autism
Posted on Tuesday, January 24 @ 12:09:56 EST by | 
Jerry Webster is our newest columnist. Jerry will be serving as WP's official Special Education expert. Here's his first article:
I remember well the first time I heard the title of Oliver’s Sack’s book, An Anthropologist on Mars (1995.) I had seen the movie Awakening and read a couple stories from The Man Who Mistook His Wife for a Hat. I remember hearing that it was how a woman with autism described her experience in the neurotypical world. It was only later I discovered it was Dr. Temple Grandin.
It comes back frequently, as I am in my fifth year of teaching students on the Autism Spectrum, now in Las Vegas, Nevada. I find I spend a lot of time trying to understand how my middle school guys (all boys in my class) see and understand the world.
As well as post graduate education from Pennsylvania State University, I am also the online guide for Special Education at About.com, and read and review a lot of resources. Nevada is one of the few states that require an autism endorsement for teaching, and I have it. But I am also an anthropologist.
I’m clearly aware that the “Anthropologist on Mars” quote referred to Dr. Grandin’s experience of the neurotypical social world. She found it baffling. In interviews she did around the time of the release of Animals in Translation, I heard her say that she had no need for a primary “romantic” relationship.
I know that is not true for all people on the spectrum, especially young men on the higher functioning end of the spectrum as well as people diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome. I was delighted to read the front page article “Navigating Love and Autism” in the December 26th New York Times telling the story of Kirsten Lindsmith and Jack Robison. Not only did the author did an excellent job of relating the relational challenges Kirsten and Jack faced, they also sent me here, to WrongPlanet.net, (my blog: http://specialed.about.com/b/2011/12/29/serendipity.htm) where I spent lots of time trolling, getting to know more about the organization and Alex, the founder.
As the special education guide for About.com, I write for special education teachers. I see my role as providing resources for the whole range of teachers, those who work in resource rooms to those who deal with students with multiple handicaps. I have noticed a lot of interest in articles I write about social skills and behavior management. I also have found that many of the books written about teaching social skills are designed for therapists in clinical settings or afterschool programs. In my situation, and classrooms like mine, there are a range of abilities. Some of my guys are able to participate in some general education classrooms with support: they have Aspergers or high functioning autism but their difficulty in dealing with the expectations of a general education classroom makes a full day impossible. Others are low functioning. There are no social skills programs that can support both groups.
It’s time to write the book. I have decided I need to address this need, using the resources I have at hand and research that has already been done. It will be a middle school curriculum with a cafeteria style organization, to equip teachers and provide a rich menu of options. It will involve emotional literacy, scripting, video modeling and video self-modeling, role playing and lots of explicit teaching, using the “teaching interactions” method from the Autism Partnership. It will also involve peer mentoring.
What I really need is feedback and suggestions from the Autism Community, from family members and those on the spectrum. I need to know what is essential, what you have done that didn’t work or seemed like a waste of time, what you wish someone had taught you.
Alex and I spoke by phone the last week of 2011, and he agreed to give me this opportunity. I’m thrilled (I’m also on the forum with my own name) to contact the community and get your input. I hope you will share based on these questions:
What was hardest for you to figure out in social settings?
What was the most helpful program or strategy that you were taught at school?
What program or strategy was meaningless, useless or just plain annoying?
What do you wish someone had taught you in terms of social skills and social interactions?
What did you learn at school about social skills that you now think is the most valuable?
What did you have to learn on your own that you wish you had some help with?
Jerry will be reading the comments. He's looking forward to hearing your answers to these questions so please comment!
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Re: An Autism Anthropologist in Need of Help: Special Education and Autism (Score: 1)
by LizDitz Tuesday, January 24 @ 13:04:44 EST
(User Info | Send a Message) | | Hi Jerry, I am one of the editors at The Thinking Person's Guide to Autism (TPGA). I posted a link to this article at TPGA's Facebook page, http://www.facebook.com/thinkingpersonsguidetoautism/posts/217438151681918 [www.facebook.com]. While I asked folk to comment here, sometimes comments are left at the FB page.
This is a great project and I look forward to seeing the results. |
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Re: An Autism Anthropologist in Need of Help: Special Education and Autism (Score: 1)
by kfisherx Tuesday, January 24 @ 13:11:44 EST
(User Info | Send a Message) http://asdculture.wikispaces.com/ | | Jerry,
My name is Karla Fisher and I am on the spectrum. Last year I launched an all out (hundreds of hours and over 6K dollars invested) study on social skills training that exists today from the NT perspective. I worked personally with Michelle Winner and Pam Crooke (they even spent a weekend at my rural home in Portland to help me). I have a LOT of insight into this topic and am on the leading edge of defining Autism NOT as a social disorder but a multiple disorder starting with context disability based on lower abilities to abstract.
This work has led me to the conclusion that the NT social skills models are pretty grossly flawed for us as they are written today. My work has resulted in combing some core concepts of social and ASD cultures. I have created a social advocacy model that rolls the NT knowledge-base and models into the ASD needs and abilities. It is simple and can work for ANY level of autistic person. I am currently rolling this model out to educators in my local area.
Please see my year long thread on my social skills work on Wrong Planet and visit my Wiki Page. If you are interestedin talking more, I will make myself available.
http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt153181.html
http://asdculture.wikispaces.com/
warm regards,
Karla
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Re: An Autism Anthropologist in Need of Help: Special Education and Autism (Score: 1)
by JeremyNJ1984 Tuesday, January 24 @ 14:08:21 EST
(User Info | Send a Message) | | Hi Jerry,
Thank you for the time for reading this. A little about myself..I am 27, have aspergers ( but never knew much about it until 5 years ago when my family approached me with it). I graduated Cumma Sum Laude from Montclair State University and currently work as a temp. for the state of NJ division of developmental disabilities. I don't want to bog you down with my life story, but personally it took social skills training/therapy and my own inner drive to learn how to drive a car, go on interviews, and successfully get a job. Now, to your questions...the major issue when it comes to Social Settings for me is knowing how to read another persons voice...tone,inflection, the interest of the other person with what I am saying is always difficult to grasp and i realize that after I have the conversation i say to myself " ohhh...so he/she wasn't interested in what i was saying"...i think practice dialogue with different tones and helping students pick up on the norms of social discussion is really helpful. I know it has helped me. The most meaningless thing when i was in High School, was this idea that if I only joined groups i would somehow learn how to interact socially...it wasn't that simple..I was in cross country track, FBLA ( future business leaders of america), but that didn't help me at all in getting friends...their has to be a way for students with autism to interact on a gradual day by day basis with the " neurotypical" students. I find I warm up to people a lot easier if its a gradual process...i am nervous, sweaty, uneasy around new people. Hopefully other people have great suggestions. Thank you for the time for reading this. |
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Re: An Autism Anthropologist in Need of Help: Special Education and Autism (Score: 1)
by stat12 Tuesday, January 24 @ 14:55:56 EST
(User Info | Send a Message) | | What is the hardest for you to figure out in social settings?
Everything. I can't handle the noise, what to say, how to act, and what to do when I am at a family gathering or event. I hate going to places like supermarkets, malls and stores where there are lots of people. I don't know what it is but I just can't handle it. That is what I will not miss about college, the labs, small group projects and class. I loved the academic side of college just dealing with the people drove me nuts at times. I would like to get my PhD but just need to take a break from school for awhile.
I haven't had any social skills training. And I am in my last year of college and can't wait to graduate. I do not really participate in social activities and try to avoid them. I don't feel I am missing out, just like to keep to myself. In some ways I can't wait to graduate so I can live on my own and just be independent.
Hopefully that answers your questions. I couldn't really answer the last 5 questions.
About WrongPlanet. I really like this site, it has allowed me to see what other people on the autism spectrum go through with life, especially the "Love on the Spectrum" article in the NYTimes. I so understand Jack about not liking deep touch. I hate getting hugged and being in tight places like sitting in a crowded stadium or just walking through crowded areas. So thank you, at least I know I'm not the only person experiencing this.
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Re: An Autism Anthropologist in Need of Help: Special Education and Autism (Score: 1)
by NicoleG Tuesday, January 24 @ 16:03:23 EST
(User Info | Send a Message) http://trickykitty.dreamwidth.org/ | | In The Unwritten Rules of Social Relationships, Dr. Grandin stated: "For some, we will become expert actors on the stage of life, but it will always be a part, one we just learn to perform more skillfully as years go by."
I am very high functioning, have numerous Aspergian symptoms, and question the need for getting an official clinical diagnosis for myself. However, I have found so many of the resources for autism and Asperger's to be the most beneficial for me in understanding my history and what went wrong regarding some recent events in my life as opposed to so many other help guides I have read.
Basically, I'm having to unlearn some bad habits. I have been very successful at donning those alternative roles in order to navigate various social situations, so much so that I lost sight of myself. What I'm having to learn is exactly how fake I come across to others when trying to be someone I'm not. I'm not sure how to define this lesson other than to say that it's as though there's a line not to be crossed while learning social nuances.
The way I think, and probably many others, is more like witnessing something in other people that I like and then adopting that behavior for myself, whether it be a turn of phrase, how I sound when speaking, how I stand or sit, or when I decide to make a joke. It's basic mimicry at its finest, and I'd like to think this is the same for everyone on or off the spectrum, just to different degrees. I've learned, though, that it can be taken too far: Feel free to adopt behaviors, but always remain true to yourself in the process. Don't do things just to fit in, but do them because they resonate within you.
I hope this makes sense. Good luck with your book. |
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Re: An Autism Anthropologist in Need of Help: Special Education and Autism (Score: 1)
by MakaylaTheAspie Tuesday, January 24 @ 16:19:53 EST
(User Info | Send a Message) | | Another great column on here. I had fun reading it.
What was hardest for you to figure out in social settings?
The hardest thing for me was figuring out what others were trying to say. I found it especially difficult to "read between the lines"
What was the most helpful program or strategy that you were taught at school?
I didn't really use a program to learn social skills, I learned them through trial and error (My parents moved a lot, so I got plenty of do-overs).
What program or strategy was meaningless, useless or just plain annoying?
The school program the school was forcing me to conform to. They made it so humiliating to me, that I just withdrew from them. I was only willing to talk to one of the special education teachers. They treated me like I was stupid, but I am not. I was able to drop those silly classes they put me through because my reading level was beyond the other students.
What do you wish someone had taught you in terms of social skills and social interactions?
To look away every now and then so it doesn't look like I'm staring at them. I've pretty much gotten used to it by now.
What did you learn at school about social skills that you now think is the most valuable?
That everyone socializes differently. There will always be someone there for you if you open yourself up to others. I have some really good pals now.
What did you have to learn on your own that you wish you had some help with?
Nothing, really. Like I said before, trial and error. |
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Re: An Autism Anthropologist in Need of Help: Special Education and Autism (Score: 1)
by Dan_Undiagnosed Tuesday, January 24 @ 17:08:13 EST
(User Info | Send a Message) | | 1. What was hardest for you to figure out in social settings?
I still have trouble with the most fundamental things like introducing myself. I just remain quiet and wait for someone else to introduce me to a third party. That and generally finding the courage to speak to people more to engage and feel connected.
2. What was the most helpful program or strategy that you were taught at school?
I've only discovered the possibility of being on the spectrum years after being out of school. All I can say about school is the stuff I was interested in I really loved. Other stuff was hard to get enthusiastic about. Maybe mentors or student advisers could act as spotters and approach kids and encourage them in their obvious fields of interest.
3. What program or strategy was meaningless, useless or just plain annoying?
Again I was long out of school before I considered the possibility of an ASD but in relation to the last comment I think one thing that had a really negative affect on me during my school years was my Dad discouraging me from drawing all the time. He would hate the ferocious looking comic book characters I drew and ask me why I drew such horrible pictures. People tell me I'm a good drawer and I could be a tattooist but stuff like that, discouragement, really turned me off it.
4. What do you wish someone had taught you in terms of social skills and social interactions?
How to walk up to someone and start a conversation. The only conversations I have with strangers are ones they initiate.
5. What did you learn at school about social skills that you now think is the most valuable?
I'm not sure I learned anything.
6. What did you have to learn on your own that you wish you had some help with?
A lot of people won't just tolerate difference. A lot of people seem freaked out by even slightly different people and their habits and quirks like people on the spectrum. |
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Re: An Autism Anthropologist in Need of Help: Special Education and Autism (Score: 1)
by Fnord Wednesday, January 25 @ 13:12:55 EST
(User Info | Send a Message | Journal) | | Q1: What was hardest for you to figure out in social settings?
A1: How to get people to like me.
Q2: What was the most helpful program or strategy that you were taught at school?
A2: Run away and hide. I should have been taught to not make it my goal to get people to like me, but to focus on my education, develop my skills and talents, and ignore the taunts and bullying.
Q3: What program or strategy was meaningless, useless or just plain annoying?
A3a: "Be a Team Player": The popular team-members will gaff off, heave all of their work onto you, and then take credit for your efforts while blaming you for their failures.
A3b: Deprecation: Being reminded by authority figures that no matter how successful you think you are, you are never quite good enough.
A3c: Unfavorable Comparisons: Being told that because someone else is better or better off, that means that you or your efforts are worthless.
A3d: Shaming or "Guilt-Tripping": Being told that because someone else is worse or worse off, that means that you have no right or reason to try to get help to alleviate your own misery.
A3e: Punishment, Humiliation, & Ridicule: Failure is intolerable; but because you will never be good enough (see A3b), you must always be punished or humiliated in some way. The idea being that if they can not teach the good into you, they can at least try to "beat out the bad".
A3f: "Be Yourself": Whenever I tried this, they would tell me that I was being insincere.
A3g: "Have a Sense of Humor: Tell a few good jokes, and you're labelled a joker forever; after which, no one will take you seriously.
Q4: What do you wish someone had taught you in terms of social skills and social interactions?
A4a: How to be useful without being used.
A4b: While it's true that "Anything worth doing is worth doing well", it is equally true that "Anything worth doing well is worth being paid well enough to do".
A4c: No one can exploit me for their own gain and amusement without my cooperation.
Q5: What did you learn at school about social skills that you now think is the most valuable?
A5a: Personal wealth is the foundation of every relationship and social encounter. While this wealth may be monetary, it also includes artistic talent, a positive attitude, and ambition.
A5b: It is not wrong to be different.
Q6: What did you have to learn on your own that you wish you had some help with?
A6a: Personal Success: No one is as effective at earning what I need and want as I am by myself.
A6b: Personal Accountability: I am accountable for only my own actions and words, and no one else's. Getting blamed for someone else's mistakes as well as mine discourages me from interacting with others.
A6c: Personal Responsibility: I am responsible for my own emotions and feelings, and no one else's. Getting blamed for someone else's depression and disappointment as well as mine discourages me from interacting with others.
A6d: Social Confidence: No one can make me feel bad about myself without my cooperation.
A6e: Social Courage: To speak up, even in the face of opposition, and communicate the facts as I know them; To point out the obvious facts that everyone else seems to be ignoring;. To remind others of the essential details that they seem to have forgotten.
A6f: Pride: Not 'hubris', but pride in my own accomplishments and in the incremental improvements that I make upon myself, no matter how small.
A6g: Social Strategy: Setting social goals, knowing when to pursue them, when to try something else, and when to give them up completely.
A6h: Believing in Myself: I have the capability to do great things, in spite of the doubts that others express in me.
A6i: To not make it my goal to get people to like me, but to focus on my education, develop my skills and talents, and ignore the taunts and bullying. |
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Re: An Autism Anthropologist in Need of Help: Special Education and Autism (Score: 1)
by cathylynn Wednesday, January 25 @ 22:13:45 EST
(User Info | Send a Message) | | i was never diagnosed in school, but i really wish someone had told me that it is possible to be too honest and that i needed serious practice in tact. if i had learned that lesson i would still be practicing medicine today. |
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Re: An Autism Anthropologist in Need of Help: Special Education and Autism (Score: 1)
by DeadOperaStar Thursday, January 26 @ 04:16:29 EST
(User Info | Send a Message) | | What was hardest for you to figure out in social settings?
I think especially as a kid, and even up to now to some extent, it's been casual humor or banter that's hardest for me to fathom. I tend to err on either extreme end of the humor spectrum. That is to say, either I'm turning my humor up to 11 on the humor dial and trying to find everything funny, or I'm not daring to find anything funny and take everything literally. The latter is the safe mode that I mostly use these days. It's less offensive to folks, I guess.
What was the most helpful program or strategy that you were taught at school?
Being recognized for things done well, and giving each kid an opportunity to show what they're good at are good ways to integrate students. For example, setting up ways in different fields or areas of study to give kids social recognition. One way that school did this for me was to have us write essays and then have students choose what they thought was the best written from the class. I had a lot of trouble making friends based on just conversation, but I felt like I'd gained some respect from people when I was allowed to show what I was good at. I also learned to respect others for their skills and talents. This was different from my experiences in elementary school, where I felt almost punished for being good at certain things.
I'm not sure if I'm really answering your question as I'm not sure this really qualifies as a "program" per se. If not, then my apologies.
What program or strategy was meaningless, useless or just plain annoying?
As a kid, I had some special talents or abilities to focus on things, especially phonetics and everything reading related, but whenever I wanted to do more in those subjects, I was discouraged and told that I was being disruptive. For example, there would be a story for us all to read, which I would finish quickly and then move on to other things in the book. For some reason, this always made my elementary school teachers angry at me. I think now that their idea of socializing kids was to keep them all at the same level regardless of individual levels. I disagree with this very strongly. I think there should be ways to socially recognize kids based on their own merits. The only system they had for doing this was the student of the month program, which was voted on by the students. More or less, I saw that as an efficient way to promote kids who were already enjoying social approval and further isolate the ones who weren't.
What do you wish someone had taught you in terms of social skills and social interactions?
Be aware of others. I think we have to be taught this in special detail. Noticing and interpreting facial expressions and such is so foreign to us. As far as humor (both giving and receiving laughs), it's a pretty essential social value that gets people to trust and like one another. It's also virually impossible without a good working knowledge of how to gauge others' reactions. When to laugh, when not to laugh, when to tell a joke, and so on are all determined by this ability. I'm sure I don't need to tell you all that, of course, but I just want to say that even though I know this now, knowing is still not good enough. I've always been intelligent enough to understand those things in an abstract sense, but a safe environment in which to learn these things and try them out as a young person would have been invaluable, perhaps.
What did you learn at school about social skills that you now think is the most valuable?
While it was mostly random and haphazard, I did get some experience dealing with reactions from people, and I think that's helped me somewhat in knowing when to tone down my personality and when to turn it up, so to speak. I also learned that we don't always have to like each other in order to respect each other.
What did you have to learn on your own that you wish you had some help with?
There have been a few occasions when I've offended or put off people by violating one or more of their taboos. This wasn't because I wished to be nasty or offensive at all, but rather because of several different factors. 1. I can be insensitive to the reactions of others. 2. I can understand a cultural or group attitude objectively, but in some important way, I might not internalize it. The concepts of profanity or sacrilege, for some reason have little to no emotional value with me, other than being humorous at times (which is what gets us into trouble, now isn't it..). 3. I often forget that people can't really see inside my head. This means that perhaps the intents or directions of my remarks end up obscure or partially unstated.
Well, I could go on, but you probably get the idea. Basically, for someone to tell me, "Hey, better safe than sorry.." might have checked my remarks, especially if it were communicated to me that I might actually be HURTING people or THREATENING them by my words or actions. Not only that, but also it wouldn't hurt to have known that I'd be embarrassing myself, most likely.
I think your program and your work are really excellent and I'm happy to see people developing this stuff. I only wish it were more widely available and taken more seriously by parents and teachers. |
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Re: An Autism Anthropologist in Need of Help: Special Education and Autism (Score: 1)
by LennytheWicked Thursday, January 26 @ 22:42:03 EST
(User Info | Send a Message) | | My name is Lenny [it's not, actually, but it's my nickname], and here are my answers.
What was hardest for you to figure out in social settings?
I have a lot of trouble figuring out why other people are laughing. It makes me incredibly nervous, as I've been bullied and laughed at quite frequently.
What was the most helpful program or strategy that you were taught at school?
I had to learn this from experience:
You have to make a choice between being well-liked and being happy, if you're on the spectrum. I eventually chose to just do what makes me happy, and have friends who can respect who I actually am.
My special education teachers could not respect this. As I no longer have an IEP, this is acceptable.
What program or strategy was meaningless, useless or just plain annoying?
Any sort of busy work that they made the kids in the resource room do. Addressing envelopes and sorting cards was incredibly useless, and demeaning. There were also lessons on how to take phone calls, which were stupid.
Bottom line, try asking students if they've done these sort of things on their own before. As their parents if you're still not sure. Just don't make a mostly-functional aspie/autie do something they already know how to do.
What do you wish someone had taught you in terms of social skills and social interactions?
How to tell when people are making fun of me.
What did you learn at school about social skills that you now think is the most valuable?
Anything that I learned, I learned on my own. Resource was a time that clouded my elective-taking abilities.
I think the most valuable thing I learned is to be suspicious of acquaintances speaking with you. Sometimes they're just looking for some fuel for the fire.
What did you have to learn on your own that you wish you had some help with?
Recognizing when people are making fun of me. I'm still not there yet. |
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Re: An Autism Anthropologist in Need of Help: Special Education and Autism (Score: 1)
by seaside Monday, January 30 @ 00:13:25 EST
(User Info | Send a Message) | | -What was hardest for you to figure out in social settings?
It still is hard for me to figure out what is going on when everyone falls silent and looks at each other, perhaps after I've said something... Then I am trying to figure out what just happened... I also cannot tell what people are thinking and whether they are bored and would welcome facts mentioned or think it's weird if I would talk at that moment...
-What was the most helpful program or strategy that you were taught at school?
We didn't have any special instruction for autism when I was a kid! The best thing for me was the tiny class size, consistency of teachers and location for years, clearly set rules of the school (mailed out each year, too!), and the fact that everybody knew who I was.
-What program or strategy was meaningless, useless or just plain annoying?
Nothing good came from trying to get me to be less clumsy at team sports. Wasted a lotta hours that could have been spent on less discouraging and fruitless practice!
-What do you wish someone had taught you in terms of social skills and social interactions?
Oh, everything! I'm still learning! I just bought 'the hidden curriculum' and other related books.
-What did you learn at school about social skills that you now think is the most valuable?
Well, when classmates exclaimed in annoyance, 'Nobody cares!' I learned not to talk about fascinating subjects unless specifically asked.
-What did you have to learn on your own that you wish you had some help with?
I'm not finished learning, but something about timing and listening and noticing what is going on with other people would help a lot, as well as executive function issues for compensating and getting one's work done. |
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Re: An Autism Anthropologist in Need of Help: Special Education and Autism (Score: 1)
by aniloverl Thursday, February 02 @ 22:13:03 EST
(User Info | Send a Message) | | Hi I'm Ani
What was hardest for you to figure out in social settings?
Getting into conversations is probably the hardest for me. I pick up friends everywhere, it seems, but if a person I know is already in a conversation I never know how to involve myslef in it. I can never find a break to
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What was the most helpful program or strategy that you were taught at school?
I didn't learn anything about Aspies at school except that we need lots of help and are idiots. (I have lots of issues). Best strategy I do in school. I useful strategy I have is a weighted blanket for home and listening to music. Something with a strong beat that is easy to ignore but drowns out all the noise.
What program or strategy was meaningless, useless or just plain annoying?
English class. Everything in High school is about symbols, emotions and lots of reading between the lines. Since I couldn't really understand the characters it was difficult to trawl my way through all the inference. And metaphors, lots of metaphors.
What do you wish someone had taught you in terms of social skills and social interactions?
The biggest thing in Junior High was all the stuff I am learning now,the high-functioning, the gifts I have, getting me into Aspie networks. My school just put all the kids with problems in one room to play games so I spent an afternoon playing checkers with a 10yo and the only other Aspie I knew at the school was a jerk. The conversation thing, mentioned above. I wish someone would have talked to me about dealing with sibs and stuff since my sis is ADHD.
What did you learn at school about social skills that you now think is the most valuable?
I leare=ned how to make friends with similar interests, although that is probably part of growing up and not just being friends with a person because they are the only person around.
What did you have to learn on your own that you wish you had some help with?
I wish someone would have helped me with my anxiety and depression disorders the first few times. No one at my school is trained to deal with suicidal kids and I have been told that. A lot of my friends are on staff so someone was there and a few did a load of reading on AS and depression and helped but that was because they liked me. My best strategy is a weighted blanket (you should get some)
On another note: you should work with parents a lot and believe the kids. my mother was very abusive and often ridiculed me for being an Aspie and not being popular. Keep an eye for for parents who want perfect children.
Thank you
Ani |
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white soccer shoes (Score: 1)
by adidasf50 Friday, February 10 @ 01:13:45 EST
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